Sometimes the best thing to do when your heart is aching is to get away and give yourself time to heal. This will give you new perspective and also prevents you from going back into a situation that might be toxic (for example a destructive relationship). At Coravida we provide a safe, soulful space to allow you to expand who you are as a spirit during this highly transformational period. And can coach you through any reconciliation efforts.
If you cannot get away from it all .. at least re-organize your space. Clean up your space and hide any of the person’s pictures, clothing or other environmental triggers that might keep you in a consistent state of pain or agony.
Many people make the mistake of going through their heart ache alone, or alienating friends and family with the same stories until they don’t want to hear it anymore. It helps to be surrounded by caring, supportive and skilled people around to listen to your issue and work through them with you. At Coravida, our heart center team is trained to help you heal through your current issues in the best, most positive way. And we’ll make several recommendations during your stay with us based on proven strategies for healing your heart fast.
There are also many heart based people at the Heart Center to connect with and help you re-experience your sense of connecting with other humans on a deeper level.
You may find it really helpful to write out your situation from both sides of the relationship – by trying to capture both voices .. it can really help you start to see things from a more neutral position. A neutral position is helpful whether you decide to reconcile or not. And in case of losing a loved one, it can provide a kind of closure. You can also reflect by telling your story to a good listener. At Coravida we’re very good listeners 🙂
Sometimes love can be like a drug and really cloud our view on things. It does take time, but gradually when freed from the strong cocktail of ‘love chemicals’ that bond humans, your perspective will get more clear. And as you gain a clearer perspective you can more easily see where you might have gotten o ff track and how to get back on track.
A common mistake during experiences that cause us massive heart pain is to close off and not feel at all. While being numb to the hurt might make us feel better in the short term, in the long run we stop ourselves from experiencing the flow of love that felt so good in the first place. Keep your heart open and over time the pain will subside, and yet you will still be able to receive love .. from the universe, yourself and others. It’s never “too soon” to experience love again.. just don’t prematurely look outside of yourself for it right away if your heart is still healing.
After giving yourself some time to simply get away from it all and allow the immediate storm of emotions to pass.. it’s a good idea to review all the things YOU did right or wrong in the relationship. While it’s easy to point out what the other did wrong, it takes some honest Soul searching to discover what you could do better.. to prepare yourself to be an even better partner in future relationships. To appreciate the things that you might have took for granted.. overall we can reap great benefits out of an ended relationship such as: better self-understanding and awareness, higher levels of self-respect and a new appreciation for what we were attracted to and loved our previous partners for in the first place, even if the person wasn’t who we thought they were.
Each time you remember “emotionally charged” emotions from the past you might experience the feeling of heart break all over again. This is completely normal and part of the letting go process. If you don’t judge it and simply allow yourself to feel through it.. you’ll notice each time you go back to the same memo
After the ending of a relationship it takes time to reorient yourself from the “we” to “me” center. The sooner you can “let go” and trust that whatever is going to happen will happen, you can get back to being happy with being in the company of YOU. From here we suggest getting into a routine that helps you feel alive and on purpose.
As you find yourself in a better heart space, you may feel more ready to celebrate and express yourself. You’ll have a new found appreciation for your freedoms to do pretty much anything you want as long as its in alignment with the new higher self you want to be. In an environment like Coravida you’ll have the space to dance, sing, do art, play an instrument, do yoga, meditation, go on an adventure or community missions and any number of activities that are proven to release feel good hormones and soothe the soul!